This week’s ‘Meet a Mum’ is the wonderful mother-of-four,grandmother of one Sonia! You will never meet a more outgoing, kind-hearted, hard-working soul than Sonia and in this post she talks a little about her life and her thoughts on future study. I am sure you will enjoy reading what she has to say…
*P.S. Aren’t these modern grannies gorgeous???
Tell me about yourself and your family?
I started my family at the very early age of 17 with my beautiful daughter Brigette, times were tough and I struggled to work and spend quality time with her as a single parent. I had grand ideas of studying and making something of myself and being a good role model for her. Things didn’t quite go to plan with the studying, but still I worked hard and provided her with a strong role model.
Next I was blessed with my ever so gentle, Mitchell. Mitchell was a difficult baby with health issues, later to be diagnosed with borderline Aspergers, a form of autism. Once again I found my world spinning around me and my focus was on my children and providing what I could to make their lives the best they could be.
After a very rocky relationship with Mitchell’s father, I found myself alone again with two kids to support. Although I had worked throughout this time, learning as I went, constantly adding to my experience and knowledge, I still had not gone back to any formal study.
Then I met the man of my dreams. Scotty and I now have a boisterous set of 6.5 year old identical twin boys. Life as you can imagine has been hectic, but with Scotty’s support, I moved in to disability care. I was very lucky to be offered the opportunity to do my Cert III in Disability Work through my employment with Autism WA.
Although I have since moved on from disability services, I have found my study invaluable. It has been something I can include in all my positions, especially as mother and grandmother.
Why are you considering studying?
After being made redundant from a job I thoroughly loved earlier this year, I have struggled to find anything that I wanted to do that didn’t require qualifications to accompany my experience. I have also found that those jobs I am looking at possibly do not hold the same attraction they once did. With such a supportive family, I now have the opportunity to look at training in a completely different field and starting the “career” I have always wanted.
How will you decide what to study? What sort of things will influence your decision?
Now that I am older, I have different priorities. Where once I thought about the money factor as being the most important thing for my family, I now know the most important thing for my family is me. And for me, it’s my family. I don’t want to study and find that it doesn’t allow me to have time with my family, and ultimately this is an important factor for the end position I study for.
There has to be a family/ work balance.
What do you think will be the benefits of studying?
The benefits to me studying is that I shouldn’t be such a cranky bitch! Having been brought up with such a strong work ethic, I don’t like being unemployed and my demeanor isn’t enhanced at all when I am in a job I don’t like. If I am studying/training in something I believe in and have a sense of accomplishment doing, I am a much nicer person to live with. Just ask my family!
In what ways will studying change your family’s lifestyle?
Our current lifestyle is a little strained as I am unemployed and temping at any and every opportunity. With this in mind, it probably wouldn’t be much different. If anything, it could be a whole lot better as I would feel as if I am working towards something that will benefit the whole family, not just me.
Do you have any specific concerns or worries about studying? If yes, what are they?
Only that I might not be accepted into what I want to do, and that I fail if I do get in. If I’m not accepted, I’ll try again or find something else I am better suited to, if I fail, I start again. Either way there are solutions to my concerns and I just have to keep those positive mantras flowing through my mind.
What would you particularly like to know before you start? (from other mums who study, from the university etc.)
That I can succeed! I see so many mums, you included Bailey, that make it seem so easy and you balance it so well. I know it hasn’t been easy, and that hard work makes it all worthwhile, but at 40 years of age, I have some self doubt as to what I am capable of doing.