Toleration Free Zone
I have been trying to follow a concept called “The Toleration-Free Zone.” Essentially, it involves listing all the things that annoy you or that you are tolerating in your life and then working through the list trying to eliminate them.
The idea is not to ‘band-aid’ over a problem but to eliminate it entirely from your life. Obviously, there are some things we have to tolerate. This isn’t about those issues but rather about identifying what we can change and then working towards changing those things.
I must say here though, we are not talking about ‘good tolerance.’
This is about those things which are just soul-grinding, life-wearing-down things. For example, one of my things is constantly having to clean the cushion part of the high chair. It is such a poor design and bits of food and sloppy porridge tends to get inside because of the way the straps come through…oh seriously I am not even going to describe it any further it is that annoying and petty- however- it causes me daily problems.
It’s like ground-hog day – I mean, the kid does get fed regular meals! So to eliminate this problem, I took the cushion off and while it’s probably not as comfortable for the baby I can now easily clean the whole high chair. It is a small thing and I can hear the chants of “first-world problem” but it was a problem for me. A daily, continuous problem and more significantly, it was a something I could do something about. And I did.
So, that is what I have been doing slowly over the last few weeks. I am only really up to refining my list and working out strategies for elimination but I feel I am making some progress just by making a list.
I will keep you up-dated when more of my “items” are gone forever.
Give it a try...
Give it a try, you spend 20 minutes listing 50 things that you are tolerating and then you start with the easiest ones and aim to knock them all off the list.
Remember, the idea is to eliminate the problem or thing you are tolerating from ever happening again, rather than ‘solving’ the issue.
Let me know how you get on!